I am a 44 year old mum of 2 and step mum of 2 more! I live with my girls and my lovely partner Andy in Derry, N.Ireland. I am doing my PhD in Psychology having been lucky enough to get a funded place. I am also attempting to write my first book; a work of contemporary fiction. I write many short stories though have yet to win any competitions! What I believe has of course been heavily influenced by my academic learning, and my work in mental health. However my blog reflects my own personal views, developed from my own application of anything I have learned. The blog is one hundred percent Grainne.
I have been living in recovery from depression for over 6 years now. I decided that myself and alcohol needed to part company in March 2013. I am, and will always be, a work in progress.
My recovery is rooted in the things I do every day, in my habits. In who I spend my time with. In the books I choose to read. In the work I choose to do. In the food I eat. In what I watch on TV. In what music I listen to. In what I talk about. In the thoughts I choose to think.
I have never worked on recovering from depression or anxiety. I have worked on getting to know me, and liking me. Now I choose to live an authentic life and make no apologies for the woman I am. An introverted nerd who likes to be at home with my tribe and prefers the quiet life.
The day I stopped following the crowd and stepped into the person I chose to be; that was the best day of my life. It feels like I am on the best adventure of my life as I discover and develop Grainne. Intergenerational pain is when we pass our hurt to our children and beyond. I believe in intergenerational recovery – it’s more of a diffusion. It spreads out to your children, to your parents, through your family and wherever you take it.
I believe in kindness, in gratitude, in optimism, in the basic goodness of people. I love people. And I love words.